Being natural is your real attitude
You are not required to make any effort to be natural. Being natural is your true attitude. You are natural, you just need to throw away all the masks which you have put to hide real you. You just need to live for yourself first then for others. If you feel like dancing, dance, if you feel like crying, cry, if you feel like laughing, laugh, if you feel like being silent, be silent, if you feel like doing any other thing, just do. Your all acts will be natural till the time if does not hurt others. Now you are thinking you can’t do it because you are not ready to throw away your masks as well as your biggest fear is this “what will others think about you?”
That’s why I say you do not live for yourself but you live for others, till the time you do not live for yourself, you will not be able to discover yourself. Start with this choose a tree or plant touch its leaf gently with love do it for three days, on forth day put its leaves gently between your both palms without plucking them, close your eyes get attached with the tree or plant as deeply as you can. Then try to communicate with it and I promise you will get the answer from it in your own language, answer will not come from outside but it will arise within you and you will be able to hear your inner voice. Souls do not communicate in words but they communicate in feelings, souls can understand each other feelings without words, they know the language of love. But the feelings are transformed into words for our body and brain.
“In the spring, at the end of the day, you should smell like dirt.”
— Margaret Atwood
“Experience life in all possible ways – good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter" Experience all the dualities, don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.”
Osho
Being natural is your real attitude. If a questions comes to you “whom do you love most” what will be your answer. Just write about five people names whom do you love most on a paper, is your name there. According to my experience in very few cases someone loves itself most. And the person who loves it most has his heart filled with love, love and love.
You may find it difficult to be natural all the time due to the mentality of living life according to feelings of others about us but you can choose a day of week in the beginning to start with. Dedicate that day totally for yourself; just do whatever you feel like doing. Try to fulfill all your wishes in relation with you. An early preparation for the same will be better. Follow the following instructions to get the best results:
Choose the day on which you are totally free from your daily work and duties, if you do not have one try to make out one in the same manner as you manage in case of relatives marriage or any other engagement. Please keep six to seven days difference between the action day and preparation days.
Make a note book and put the date of the first preparation day and write all those things which you wanted to do but could not do due to your work or any other conditions. For example you wanted to laugh at the time of official meeting but could not do or you wanted to praise a girl but could not do due to your wife’s presence or you just wanted to keep quite but couldn’t do because you had to answer your boss questions.
Everyday write down all those actions and make a list till the final day and you will be surprised to see that the list length is beyond your expectation as well as imagination and you will find few wishes are there which you control every day.
One day before the final day choose any five wishes which you wanted to do but could not do.
On final day attempt all those wishes put your whole efforts to fulfill them and you will become happiest person on the planet because you will be doing what you couldn’t. You will be what you are. A very natural person you will find in yourself.
